false guilt!!!!

have you ever tried to help somone in the process of their turmoil of you tyring to help them.. things seemed to fall apart...That was not your plan but somehow you it was your fault, and you get the blame for all the hell that they are going through... Let's not mention the fact that they have a pattern of self sabtoage, that creates a repeat cycle of problems.. and turmoil..

What do you do in the cases sometimes you have to let things go, you hate to see someone that you love go through the hurt and the shame, but for the ones that we love with a iron will somerimes we have to let them run into the wall and jump over the ledge for them to find out it is danger on the other side..

Love is never describe as easy sometimes it can be tough and hard awakeing experience, loving a person that will not listen to sound instruction is sometimes like loving the wind.. You

don't know what way things are coming in and the direction that they are heading.. If you are with someone that is prone to drama and seems to graivate toward chaos... That is your single to let go of yoru grip and let their personal journey play out for them... You will never be able to change nor control a person,, but you will always be bale to have the strenght to let that person be who they are...

So stop beating yourself up if you have a child, a family member, a love one who is begging for th universe to punish them.. Until there energy around them changes they will draw the chaos... And if you find yourself outgrowing them, please don't fight the process let yourself grow and become the person you were designed to be...

You can't help someone that is unwilling to be help, sharing love, wisdom, time, and money to someone who is bound for chaos is a waste of time, so stop tyring to find ways in helping someone that is unwilling at this time in their life to change, it is not your fault, you are only responsible for you, nobody else, let the guilt go, when someone get tired they will change...

I notice certain behaviors patterns with hard headed people they always find faults and excuses in other people why their life is in a rut... My boss is against me, my friends are jealous, I could do better than them id I had the chance... so on and so on...

But the truth is they have the power to change their life... they palce blame on others as a decoy as why their life is in the mess it is in. That is fault guilt, you heard it and live it before, the reason why I can't do this is because of you.. That is a lie, do you really think you are the blame for people personal problems. NO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! and until they do so you wipe your eyes and get you self together and get yourself sometthing good to eat and enjoy life.....

love lady dee